Blessed with MS

Just from the title of this blog, you may be curious how a person can feel blessed with multiple sclerosis. Well my friend, I’m here to open up about my experience and expand your mind frame!

As you know, MS is a chronic disease. This is understandable and well known, but it lacks something more. You see, you’re wonderfully made, and if you didn’t know, now’s the time to acknowledge it. Know that even if your body goes through some changes, it’ll never take away your credibility.

You’ve got to see the best within yourself, even when times get hard. I was diagnosed with MS when I was 14 years old. I had reached my lowest point when I had to discontinue schooling because I couldn’t walk, talk or eat on my own. Now, I know it sounds harsh and difficult to understand, but there was a blessing in the midst of it all now that I reflect back on my life.

All my hardships have helped me to push myself towards greatness: from earning my college degree, to even running my own business as a motivational speaker. I strongly believe that MS should never prevent you from following your dreams or aspirations. Being at your lowest of lows can actually help you understand the many strengths that you possess.

Regardless of any MS battles you’ve faced, your life has a purpose. No matter what the doctors, or internet says, your life still has a purpose! You must move past any doubts or fears and learn to trust yourself within the process. This is how you add a positive atmosphere to your thought process.

Never forget this.

With that being said, I encourage you to keep fighting. Try and keep a positive mind amid sunny or cloudy days. This will be the strength you’ll need further down the road. Trust me when I say it’ll be alright, because it truly will. You’re more than a conqueror in life. Please, take that into your advantage and transform it into something phenomenal.

Out of all the people in the world, there is someone other than your family who admires your battle with MS. Let that sink in for a moment. I know it can seem hard to understand, but it’s so true.

So, pick your head up and stick your chest out. Because you really are amazing.
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Paige

Paige Starks

Paige is 23 years old and lives with MS. She spends most of her time focused on her business – motivational speaking. Her mission in life is to help people see past their harsh adversities and to turn them into strengths and blessings.

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  • Henriksen Stig   Jul 25, 2017 2:22 PM
    Thank you Paige,i needed just those thoughts back in my head again,they seem to fade some times.
    Blessings from Norway
  • J   Jul 25, 2017 3:25 PM
    This is an exceptionally inspirational passage. It is imperative to educate others on MS and let those who have it and the families know that there is hope, always.
  • Mary Madjeski   Jul 25, 2017 5:20 PM
    Hi Paige,

    First & foremost, thank u for your words of wisdom & inspiration. I know that The Lord pressed them upon your heart, but you made a choice to let his voice be heard.

    When I first saw your title, "Blessed With MS", I cried out, "OH, NO!". The reason for my overly-dramatic statement, was because you see, I am an aspiring published author and that was the exact tile I was trying to name my book, and or the theme I was trying to invoke, and you beat me to it. However, I should still be grateful & happy for you on successfully reaching others in this way.

    As u have already guessed, I also have MS. I was! ways diagnosed with MS until later in life. The age of 14! WOW, that had to be a tough age to find out you had a disability! However, what's amazing, is that you discovered a Blessing in the midst of it all, & was able to turn it around & see how it affected your life in not so much of a negative manner, but in a positive one.

    I don't personally know you, but when u wee younger, did you ever think of being a Motivational Speaker? My problem, is with self-motivation:-(, & that's why I have all these dreams I don't go forth with. However I'm finding or discovering, while walking with The Lord, through this journey of my life, that at the end of some of the darkness, I'm seeing more beauty.

    this procrastination on finding and discovering that the Lord what the Lord wants me to do.

    I've had Ms for about what now 17 years almost 18 years and will know 17 years and it's been a roller-coaster it has but it has been I have seen the blessings in it I mean it's amazing how I can find the good in things that are so traumatic, because I am able to see the good that God does with it, and, you are right, it is phenomenal! IT'S AMAZING how when we walk with The Lord, how we have a different perspective about the trials & tribulations that surround us in this Fallen World.

    I'm just checking wondering, & I apologize for this being so long. I know that you were 14 when can you got MS, but did you think that you will grow up to become a Motivational Speaker?

    I never thought I'd have MS 17 years ago and but I know it changed me for the better.

    Well Paige, thank you again for what u stated about MS & for reading this long novel of a response.

    May The Lord Bless you in Everything you Do that Glorifies Him!

    Your friend,
    Mary Madjeski
    A ghost writer & an aspiring published author
  • Marisa H.   Jul 26, 2017 11:05 PM
    Paige,

    What a blessing to read your post. I've had MS since 1999 going to be 60 in a few months. When I was Diagnosed 12/17/99, (I'm a retired Nurse) now. My neurologist said "Don't give up"just keep your yoga up keep working ,,,,so I did just that raised 4 Beautiful Children went to Nursing school and just 5years ago had a 5 day stay at Barrows Neurological Institue and was told it's time to slow down......that was and still can be hardest for me ,,,,,working in Medical Field is not easy but I loved every second of it. So YES !!! I agree when you say this is a Blessing to have MS, all of us that have been diagnosed with this Virus.....Never ever give up keep moving,,,,, I now have 6 ,beautiful grandchildren and I'm still up and running and staying active and what a blessing to now just be a Grandma it's just another chapter in my life....The Lord has been watching over me all these years and I will never ever give up. So ladies and gentlemen. Be mindful everyday and thank the Lord for the Grace he gives us everyday. One day at a time 💜
    God bless you Paige and all of US with this Virus .....💜 keep moving and again be mindful we all have a purpose in this life 💜

    Marisa H.
    Marisa ✝
  • Paige Starks   Jul 27, 2017 7:44 AM
    Marisa, YESSS! You're still going strong! God is so awesome. I admire you for living your life. There is nothing too hard for God to handle! Keep shining bright, and remember, "You're more than a conqueror!"
  • Mona   Aug 17, 2017 7:28 AM
    'I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.' He does some of his best work when we're in the cave. Thanks for sharing your hope.
  • Jack   Aug 22, 2017 11:57 AM
    You're amazing. I feel blessed to have read this. Thank you.
  • Bianca   Aug 22, 2017 12:04 PM
    Jus want to say thank you ..Very encouraging....
  • Wezi   Aug 22, 2017 12:15 PM
    Thanks for your comments. Keeping positive is not always easy, but it always helps.
  • Sely   Aug 22, 2017 12:16 PM
    Hallelujah!!! Love your positivity some! I don't like referring it as a disease or sickness. It's a condition. A condition that was given to u but it depends on how you deal with condition. I was diagnosed at the age of 22 and I am 36 yrs old now. I am married and have three beautiful gifted boys and currently expecting my fourth child.
    After the prognosis I questioned God why me???? But then the still small voice said "I promise to keep you standing". Eversince then I never questioned or got angry. I know there is a purpose why I have it. I have to bring positivity to people living with MS. My mother also has MS and is in hospice. We both took MS in a different view. I live a positive life no matter what circumstances come up. Thank you Paige for the positive blog you wrote. I pray it touches people's hearts and gives them hope. MS is not a death sentence like the doctors want you to believe. Live and keep your mind positive. Eat healthy which is the most important medicine to fight MS and live life. Blessing to all.
  • Nikki   Aug 22, 2017 6:40 PM
    You took my words to another level!!
    POSITIVE!!!
    My son has the same view on life!!!
    Your smile says it all!!!
    My boy is 27 and if only we all saw the world as you both see it!!
    It would be a colorful happy world!!! I don't know you but I feel your happy energy!!! Life is beautiful and we all have a purpose in our journey ❤️
  • Steve Johns   Aug 22, 2017 7:56 PM
    People who give out advice about what state of mind and psychological approach others should have or adopt are beginning to really annoy me! I have written numerous times in comments on articles such as this attempting, politely, to point out that others may not be as fortunate as they are in terms of mental illness and its effect on their coping with disease. This kind of article is a serious slap in the face for someone who is struggling to deal with a disease like MS AND depression. What you are implying is "This is what you need to do. Look at me, what's wrong with you that you can't just choose to be this positive?". Someone who has clinical depression does not choose this and cannot simply snap out of it and be positive. Depression, in as many different levels of severity as there are ways people experience MS, is a common problem for people with chronic disease I am sick and tired of hearing this "Just be positive and look on the bright side and all will be wonderful" advice from self appointed self righteous 'experts'. People who have no idea, or inclination to find out, what others are experiencing, but launch into handing out "Look at me, aren't I fantastic? You need to do the same." advice without any understanding of or apparently any care for how this will affect others.

    There is a wide spectrum of severity in depression and there is no ‘one size fits all’ solution. People need to understand this when giving advice. For some it can be relatively easy to adjust their thinking and that is all that is needed. I have been “counselling” a friend who’'s thinking and actions were consistent with depression. He was very resistant to seeking help or medication. Finally I said “Mate, as I'’ve said before, the drugs can help and everyone wants to help you but there’'s only one person who can sort this out, you. You’'ve got a lovely family but everyone'’s got a braking point. Don'’t leave it until you come home to an empty house and a note on the table.” He snapped out of it. He was at the minor end of the spectrum. I have been depressed and suicidal for over 40 years and on medication for 20. It ended up costing me my marriage, my dream job and my farm. I am further along the scale. There is no way that someone with my level of severity or worse can just snap out of it. I have finally been able to learn how to apply the methodology of CBT, combined with medication, to manage it. Some are not that lucky.

    An example from my own experience is as follows. I was a ranger in Kakadu National Park, a dream job. While there I found that many of the park's visitor facilities, staff accommodation and local Aboriginal communities contained huge amounts of asbestos and that visitors, local Aboriginal people and staff were being exposed to it daily. This is a huge health hazard as it causes a number of respiratory diseases including mesothelioma which is 100% fatal. I tried to raise the issue and get it removed. Management refused and silenced me. (money) My reaction was, but this is illegal and immoral and I should be fighting this. I tried. My depression got much worse and they just got rid of me. There was no way that I could have just decided to be positive.

    When giving advice such as this you need to be aware that people are different and to at least emphasise that you are talking about yourself and frame your story as 'this works for me'.
  • Britt   Aug 22, 2017 8:38 PM
    MS is not a blessing. There is a difference between working with what you have been dealt and being blessed. Blessed is family and friends supporting you and helping as you're diagnosed and trying to understand your new life.

    MS is a challenge and a struggle. It is no way a blessing. Coming out stronger and not letting yourself beaten down is difficult. The mental strength to carry on without fail is no easy feat. I know you just wanted a flashy title to catch attention, but I don't appreciate one of the most difficult parts of my life being called a blessing as if it is in anyway helping me or improving my life. As you are someone who has gone through and is going through the struggle, I hope you will be wiser in the future about your word choice.
  • Tim   Aug 23, 2017 8:47 AM
    To paraphrase a favorite author of mine: "Interior freedom comes from how we choose to respond to great difficulties which we cannot control." Prior to my DX 3 years ago at 50, we had experienced our eldest daughters pregnancy at 19, and my wife's cancer DX. All of these challanges were, thankfully, not ends, but beginnings of aspects of my life for which I had to choose a response. We have been given the perfect standard against which to form our responses - the love of our Lord. Thanks, Paige for the reminder!
  • Jennifer   Aug 23, 2017 6:21 PM
    Thank you for your positivity. I have felt exactly the same since I was diagnosed 12 yrs ago. I have had three different doctors and they have all said they do not worry about me because I have a great attitude and I will be the better for it. I take no medication because I don't feel I need it. Yet. Such a huge blessing!
  • Carl Mitchell   Aug 24, 2017 6:13 AM
    Thank you for sharing your story. Truly inspiring.
  • Asia   Aug 25, 2017 9:19 AM
    Amen, Paige!! I was diagnosed in 2014, and I find ALL my hope and strength in the one who made me just as I am, and who wasn't surprised at all when my diagnosis came. He walks with me every step of the way!
  • Lisa Thompson   Sep 3, 2017 10:13 PM
    I am blessed also
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    BeautifulChaos  Sep 26, 2017 9:49 AM
    YOU ARE AMAZING! I love the strengths perspective you give.