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  • THERESAF
    I AM A NEAR 50yo woman WHO HAS BEEN MARRIED TO MY HUSBAND (1989) SINCE HE WAS STATIONED IN CRETE, GREECE IN 1986.
    NOW, HE IS RETIRED AIR FORCE AND WORKING FOR CHESAPEAKE CITY JAIL.
    THIS IS A SMALL WORLD...
    I WAS A NURSE IN MISSOURI WHEN I GOT THE MS DIAGNOSES AND WE MOVED FROM MISSOURI TO VIRGINIA TO BE CLOSE TO FAMILY.
    HOW ARE YOU?
    I HAVE SWOLLEN FEET FROM SITTING IN A WHEELCHAIR.

    TTFOSS
  • THERESAF
    I AM A NEAR 50yo woman WHO HAS BEEN MARRIED TO MY HUSBAND (1989) SINCE HE WAS STATIONED IN CRETE, GREECE IN 1986.
    NOW, HE IS RETIRED AIR FORCE AND WORKING FOR CHESAPEAKE CITY JAIL.
    THIS IS A SMALL WORLD...
    I WAS A NURSE IN MISSOURI WHEN I GOT THE MS DIAGNOSES AND WE MOVED FROM MISSOURI TO VIRGINIA TO BE CLOSE TO FAMILY.
    HOW ARE YOU?
    I HAVE SWOLLEN FEET FROM SITTING IN A WHEELCHAIR.

    TTFOSS
  • THERESAF
    Maybe she just wants to be told she's pretty!
  • THERESAF
    You sound very much like you ought to be a psychologist.
    I wish you lived closer to me too (Norfolk, VA) and I could afford your services!
  • THERESAF
    Even though I have a disease - I still want to be "WANTED"!
  • Rich1007
    I've been following this thread even though i haven't posted in a little while.  I've been reading up on relationship equity and found a couple of sites that are quite insightful.  To me, when MS progresses and gets worse than it used to be it is so easy for a spouse living in a world of "I want a fair and equitable relationship" to easily become disatisifed because of the natural shifts and adjustments that absolutely must occur.  Its REALLY hard to adjust to when and realizing that there are two types of relationships, "relationships of equity" and "relationships of love".  The equity types burn out when there is a shift and one partner cannot "keep up the pace" any longer.  The love relationships are the ones that last and MS is a disease that can shine a light on which one you're living in really fast.  Here's a couple of sites I found interesting to read  One is pretty "scientific" so some might find it dry and boring but i found it insightful.

    Here you go, you might just find it to be very interesting stuff:
    • www.marriagebuilders.com
    • http://www2.hu-berlin.de/sexology/BIB/HTF/EQU6.htm#EQUITYRO
     
  • Rich1007
    Hi everyone,

    Sorry I havent posted back in a while been busy with the baby.  Yeah, the exhaustion and "newness" of having a new little one is probably responsible for 99% of my concern.  We're doing well.  

    Hey, on another note, got my first scooter today........YAY (sarcasm).  Gonna try it at work tomorrow...what fun!  It so bittersweet.  I am coming to terms with my walking being so bad yet at the same time the scooter feels like a new toy and its probably going to make my life soooooooo much easier....well, keep you posted.
  • notawaitress
    Have you tried Ampyra? I know it doesn't work for everyone. For me, though, without it, I feel like I have a shoe on each foot that weighs ten pounds, and taking it makes the weight go away.

    I use a cane, but taking the Ampyra make3s walking so much easier.
  • THERESAF
    Scooters are only good if you aren't in the RAIN!
  • THERESAF
    CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR YOUR NEW FAMILY MEMBER!
    Also your new scooter is probably cool..

  • littleturtle

    I am scared of the wheelchair thought and scooter too but I put it into my mind that I could get away with running over STRESS with a power chair and I could get away with it. LOL  I have had some STRESS that needed run over recently.  People who look at you and wonder why you can not work.  Why you are exausted after cooking a meal.  Why you all of a sudden just want to go home!!

    I suspect you will not run any one over but maybe it will help you if you can look at the anoying STRESSER and make them think that you just might RUN their ****!!## over.

    Stay strong and I will be thinking of you.

  • theresafoss

    How can I get a scooter? Was it prescribed?

     I have SPMS and am wheel-chair bound.

  • Michraf
    The love is still there for us. But I have to say the intimacy has decreased. Is it age? MS? Who knows. We have talked about it and it is energy for both of us. At least the kids are older and are out alot. Don't have stay up too late!
  • Lloyd
    My wife could not accept it and thought it was other things going on, so we have been separated since Aug 12 and we are now speaking again to each other and I hope some day to reconcile 
  • clarinetmom
    We've been married for 25 years, and haven't been intimate for a while. I get tired of saying no and he gets tired of asking. We basically live like room mates. No pity, please. I'm fine with it, and figure we'll find our way back eventually. Only one more kid to get out of the house, and then we'll see...
  • THERESAF
    I'VE BEEN MARRIED 25 YEARS AND ALL 3 OF MY CHILDREN HAVE MOVED AWAY.
    I FEEL ABANDENED BY BOTH THEM AND MY HUSBAND!
  • THERESAF
    WE KEEP OUR BED USED BY MY JACK-RUSSEL TERRIOR.
    NO CHANCE FOR SEX!

    TTFOSS
  • THERESAF
    I don't have enough energy for sex
  • THERESAF
    I like your DOG!
    I have a 3YO jack russel terrior and a old black lab (2001)
    They both think think I'm MOM
  • theresafoss

    I've been married 25 years without sex also!

    Did we just get bored?