Diagnosis is the moment everything makes sense...fatigue...pain...sexual indifference , depression, anxiety...But with MS , the damage has already been done to our relationships. All those things that were said in anger that cut to the bone..." You never want to have sex"..."You are always tired and sick", "You don't listen to me, so I'm not repeating myself" ..."You don't help " ,"Why don't you cook& clean like..." 😔Screaming and Yelling and emotional scars are still fresh. Yet our care takers, after, diagnoses are supposed to become empathetic...instead mine became bitter and had no one to argue with. He also can't admit , his feelings, and seems frustrated, on how MS has changed the dynamics of our relationships. He walked out , the 2nd time, frustrated about something...I have moved to the stage of grief, past indifference...to acceptance, and refuse to let him come back home, and emotionally abuse me with his toxic personality. I feel relaxed...and I stopped trying to figure him out months ago. My children are 24, 18, and 15 and I am tired of dealing with an emotionally stunted adult. He thought I would beg him back. No! I choose Peace ! And my faith in God had increased, and I started counseling, and embraced my life with MS. I realize with MS...I will get sick, I will forget, I will lose my balance, but I am strong and everything is going to be okay 😉
Dear zuluqueen, That is an uplifting new beginning, your strength shows through and you ability to find a good solution is grand of you to share. Many of us are stuck in the victimization of ms and any sharing of problem solving with success is most appreciated. It is always a pleasure to hear someone who has dug out of the mire, someone who is getting on with living. Thank you for sharing. maria
I'm so proud of your strength and confidence! You know exactly how you deserve to be treated. You know what kind of people you need in your life and where your focus is needed! Thank you for sharing, and thank you for turning here for support!
Have a great day!
You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, smarter than you think, and loved more than you know.”
― A.A. Milne
, The Pooh Story Book
Great job! I started counseling years ago and it really helped me. Good luck!