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  • hendrixxoxo

    I am 27 years old and was diagnosed 5 months ago. They found 4 prominent and 4 non prominent lesions on my brain. I had to take a personal leave of absense for over a month because of the symptoms.Well since I've been back I've taken several days off because of the MS symptoms. The chronic fatigue and lack there of rest, constant pain; short term memory loss and constipatIon. I put my two week notice in 2 dAys ago to go PRN (as needed) and im have symptoms again that is making it impossible for me to go in today. Does anyone here feel extremely guilty for not being able to fulfill your scheduled job duties? And this is my first CNA job and I know this will affect my work history and I don't want that. What should I do?

  • trishaweyeneth

    I totally understand what you are feeling.  I was diagnosed when I was 29 and I had an amazing career as a caseworker.  That was what I went to college for and what I absolutely wanted to do for the rest of my life.  I did take a month off after I was diagnosed because I had optic neuritis and could not see out of my right eye.  Then I went back for half days.  Even with half days I would come home exhausted and could barely do my everyday tasks...cook supper, take care of my kids, clean house, etc.  Finally 3 months later after my husband and neurologist expressed concerns about my job and my health i quit.  Worst day of my life.  I wasnt going to give up though.  I got a part time job at a hospital as a CNA/secretary.  Again I kept relapsing and it was very frustrating.  My husband kept pushing me to be a stay at home mom to eliminate that stress and i had more opportunities to take care of myself.  i have been a stay at home mom for a year and a half now.  Although i am doing better I do miss my career and I even feel guilty at times because my husband works so hard to bring in a paycheck.  Thankful I do receive disability which helps some but I would do anything to be healthy enough to get my career back.  Good luck in your decision :)

  • Kris_Employment_Mgr

    Dear Hendrixxoxo,

    First of all, kudos to you for your strong work ethic.  Your ethics clearly show in your concern about how this will impact your future employment opportunities.  

    As for what you should do, there are a few things you can consider.  It sounds like you are doing the best that you can to leave your current position on a good note.  This will help increase your chances of a good reference from your previous employer despite the absences you've had.  Sometimes things just don't work out, but if your current employer knows that you did your best to manage the situation, they may be more supportive of your efforts to try again with a new employer.

    Now that you're working on an as needed basis, do your best to follow through on any promises you make and maintain open communication with the employer.  If you're still not able to meet the employer's needs on an as needed basis, be honest with them and realistic with what you offer.  Employers need to know they can count on you, for however much - or little - you promise you can provide.

    Next, think about whether you want to be proactive or reactive about the situation.  One option is to be upfront about the situation with potential employers.  This doesn't necessarily mean disclosing your diagnosis.  That is a separate issue for you to decide.  But you can consider whether you want to share information about how you experienced some personal medical issues that took some time to get under control.  If you decide to be upfront and provide this information, make sure to end on a positive note. If this diagnosis taught you how to be more organized, let the employer know. If it taught you empathy for your clients, share that with the employer.  Reassure your employer that you are a good candidate for the position.  

    (If you think you do want to be proactive with this information, review our disclosure information to make sure you understand your rights in regard to disclosure.  

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    Another option is to say nothing.  Since this was your first job, the employer may just consider it "growing pains" in the work environment.  If your previous employer is willing to give you a good reference, and if you've done what you can to learn to manage your symptoms so you can be a successful employee moving forward, there may be no need to have a discussion at all.  

    MS is unpredictable, and there's a good chance you may experience a work hiccup again.  Try to use this experience as an opportunity to learn about your rights and responsibilities, and explore supports to help you manage your MS in your personal and professional life.

    Best wishes to you!

    Kris Graham

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    My friend has to quit his job as a realitor - he couldn't be more pleased now - slowly gaining back everything he lost - it is a slow process  - but atleast he is making progress... he is now supporting his central nervous system!!  I have access to a free webinar about MS and how to support your body to reverse the symptoms ~ respecting this site, I can't put it out for every one - only the people who want the info.. so if your interested in watching it I will send it to you, my email is valory.philipczyk@q.com.  I believe you don't have to live with MS either!!  Better health to you!! Val

  • looneybiz

    I recently had to quit my job also. It was difficult for me too. You are not alone and the guilt is sometimes hard to deal with. But the torture by trying to work through how my body felt was worse than the guilt.

     

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    OMG!! full time CNA who just. put in 2 week notice, this is pretty shocking read about it at edubirdie reviews site as well. Well your 2 week notice came in handy for you good to see that.

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