dee, I dink, couldnt resist that one, I think you are the stubborn one, that you care and she does not. That you give 110% is against the law, you must always take care of you first and formost. At 50 she is an adult, permitted to make her own mistakes, and for that matter, so are you. You are not responsible for her. When I was a kid, I was supposed to take care of my kid brother, a year younger than me, of course I could not. You now are not responsible for meeting her needs, and you would be a fool to try.If you are feeling guilty that you do not have ms, let it go, it is not your fault. If you are jealous, let that go too, a toothache is worse. Your life now is about having a good time. If she is not let her be jealous, Maybe it will spark the fire she needs to take responsibility for her own life. Two miserable sisters is worse than one.