My husband was diagnosed four years ago and has the same main symptoms as your husband, compounded with memory issues and depression, sometimes sever. At this point he's hardly left the house in the past 5 months unless to go to work and has cut contact with the majority of his friends and family. It's devastating to me. He's on anti-depressents, along with all the other pain management meds. And it is exhausting to hear how bad he feels, etc.. multiiple times a week.
Because of his pain and fatigue he works four days a week, about 30 hours a week. I work two jobs, a full time office job and waiting tables on the weekends to make ends meet. And that's exhausting too. I know he works as much as he can, and would love to do more. But it's so hard to not get resentful and think that there is more he could do.
To help with the negative feelings, I take time for myself, as much as possible. I go to dinner with friends once a week, sometimes twice, and always take time at night for myself, usually watching tv after he's gone to bed, even if it's just for 30 minutes. I know it's not much guidance but it does help to be able to vent to friends about what is going on. And sometimes I vent to my husband. I try to keep it in check, because it tends to spiral him into depression, but he also has to understand that we are going through this together, he's not alone in this.
I have just joined this site and it's the first time i've connected with others who have partners/spouses with MS. Over the past few months it has become more and more obvious that i need to contact more people in my situation and join some support groups to help me through this. Contact me anytime you want to chat or vent!