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Dear Dad

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Dear Dad,   Telling you I have MS is the hardest thing I’ve had to do yet. Harder than telling you someone wanted to marry me, I was pregnant with the first grandchild or that a divorce was on the horizon. More difficult than I am moving away, I am changing jobs or I have fallen short of the dreams we dreamed together...

Man Up vs. Open Up

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As a young boy growing up in Winston-Salem, North Carolina, I heard this phase a lot. You have to “man up” and don’t show your feelings or emotions. Showing your emotions/feelings was a sign of a weak man. This all changed when I had to come around and man up about my multiple sclerosis diagnosis with my children and wife of seven years. You see, I was a single parent for a long time, so I thought I had to be a tough disciplinarian, without showing my feelings or emotions. Remember, this was part of my DNA...

The Little Things

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If there were an award for the worst runner in the world, I would win it.   That’s what was going through my mind the other day as I huffed and puffed my way back to my house after a less-than-mediocre jog. I’ve never been a great runner—it’s never come naturally to me—and yet it’s gotten harder in recent months...

A Back to School Prayer for Families

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May I have enough energy this year—parents need so much energy to navigate the demands of the school year, without pesky MS fatigue slowing them down.   So, may my fatigue not keep me from my children’s school activities, sporting events and dance recitals. May the hot weather not keep me from game days, or track and field days. May my medical appointments not conflict with those activities or events...

Taking My Own Advice

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In my job as a school counselor, I meet with high school students every day who struggle to balance the demands of their lives. I listen intently and guide them through strategies to use to help find contentment. But as I switch hats from my day job to my job as a mom to two young boys and a wife to a husband with MS, I often seem to forget to take my own advice.   Since my husband’s journey with MS began in 2015, I’ve struggled to balance. I worry about everyone all the time and forget to worry about myself...

Putting the Frosting on a Diagnosis

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When I was diagnosed with MS, I had four children under the age of six. Yep, 4 under the age of 6.    When I began experiencing numbness and tingling in my limbs, I was convinced I had a pinched nerve. I only went to the doctor because my HMO required a referral to see a specialist...

When are You Expecting to Expect?

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“So, when are you expecting to expect?” Literally the first question people asked me when I got married last year...

Perspective… and Biscuits

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Here are a few facts: MS takes up a bigger piece of our lives than we would like. It has given us a different perspective. But it will not take our sense of humor. Recently, my husband and I got yet another denial letter from our insurance saying they won’t cover the sleep medication that is finally working for my husband. I know he is not alone in the battle for sleep; the tossing and turning, the burning, the pain, the inability to stay asleep, and then, weighing all of that against the feeling of being hung over the next morning with every other sleep aid he’s tried...

Not How it's Always Been

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At work, have you ever asked why something is the way it is, and you’re told: “I don’t know… that’s just how it’s always been done.” Even just typing that, I start to break into a cold sweat...

If That Day Comes

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Life is tough. You get thrown curve ball after curve ball, and when you first start to play the game, you might get a black eye, a broken bone or knocked down. You get so frustrated because you just can't play like everyone else. Then one day, you dodge the ball. You catch it and throw it right back. Even if you do it your own way, you manage to play...