“Because She’s Sick”

Have you ever experienced someone else’s ignorance or intolerance about your MS? Have you ever had someone make you feel different or isolated from the rest of the world? Well you are not! You have MS but MS does not have you; never let someone feel like less than you are.

This is my wake-up call and message to those who feel this disease defines who we are:

If you’ve realized the cruelty of your actions or the harshness of your words, I applaud you. If you live under the umbrella of believing that your criticisms of my supposed “inequity” are justifiable, then I pity you.

If you believe that you are better off without me because “I am sick,” then I feel sorry for you. While there is a line between you and me because I have multiple sclerosis, it is only there because you’ve drawn it.

You may be better off without me, but it is not because I am sick. You are better off without me because it turns out that I am better off without you.

To put me down for the lesions in my head or the jerk of my knee when I walk is shameful. Overcoming the struggles that come with MS takes more than just a determined mind, it requires a determined heart.

You will not break me.

Drawing strength from within myself is where I start; I move forward with the strength I draw from loved ones. I progress because of others experiencing the same daily struggle I do. I become a more resilient person because of people like you, who try to knock me down for reasons outside of my control. My MS will never be used as a weapon to strike me, but instead, as an anchor to ground me against the wildest of seas and the harshest of words.

You will not break me.

You had your small victory when I fell from my post of confidence and felt that there was something wrong with me for the first time in years.

But you will not break me.

I am stronger now. Nothing will get me to quit; I will never stop trying to beat this disease.

So I thank you. I thank you for building the largest obstacle I’ve had to clamber up yet and for allowing me to build the confidence on my own to get over it and to keep pushing.

I am unstoppable—nothing will distract me from crossing the finish line.

There are thousands of others like me, and we will conquer anything people like you swing at us.

So go ahead and try.
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Catherine Weston

Catherine is a professional in the medical marketing industry from Long Island, NY. She aspires to show the world that MS doesn't hold her back. She was diagnosed in 2014 and has been striving to help others overcome their fears and limitations since (she also loves sheep!). Keep up with Catherine and her adventures on her Instagram.

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  • elizabeth winzig   Jun 1, 2018 2:45 PM
    I am definitely in your corner!!! Very on point and written convincingly. My problem is calming myself down....think first then speak...keeps me out of trouble.

    Keep on writing...its great!!
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    maria1  Jun 1, 2018 3:05 PM
    Perfect! Everyone who reads this will have their courage reinforced a hundredfold, thank you Catherine.
  • murph   Jun 1, 2018 5:59 PM
    Great article BUT, I beg to disagree with you on one point, Yes, I have MS and at times MS DOES INDEED HAVE ME. IF YOU HAVE NEVER BEEN 'HAD' BY MS, YOU ARE INDEED, FORTUNATE.
    To say MS doesn't have us is an insult to those going through a time when MS does indeed, 'have ' them.
  • Neha Virmani   Jun 3, 2018 5:26 AM
    I agree with you...
  • hope2015  Jun 7, 2018 6:39 AM
    Wonderful and inspiring post I needed to read this weak- Thanks!
  • Tanya   Jul 12, 2018 11:40 AM
    Feel free to listen to a song I wrote for myself and others, It is called My stuggle.
    You can email or message me on my Facebook to talk about MS, my song or even just an ear to listen to you xx
  • Michelle C   Jul 12, 2018 5:06 PM
    Dxd 1992, definitely relatable! I'm 49 & still fight every day! Keep strong & strong minded!
  • Dana Lock   Jul 13, 2018 10:24 AM
    You are amazing & I feel the same way!! Was ‘officially’ diagnosed w RRMS Sept 2011, but have been tracing my mysterious undiagnosed illness back to when I moved from Long Island, NY to FL in fall 1998.

    Keep up the good fight & YES!!! WE are way stronger than MS! It can never match our spirit, determination & motivation to just keep moving!! 🙌🏼🙏🏻💪🏻🤘🏻✌🏻🧡🎗🐝🍊
  • Letitia Hall   Jul 13, 2018 2:07 PM
    Catherine Weston
    She has such tenacity and strength her adversities that she chose to overlook and look forward to her the future to thrive and strive to continue to help others and not allow anyone to him to her within her MS to make it her handicap I respect you so much for that you keep fighting you are right strength is in numbers of more than the thousands of us and I stand beside you not behind you to fight MS and all those that are ignorant to the knowledge ability pertaining MS we will strike them with knowledge
  • Patricia   Jul 15, 2018 3:19 PM
    have was told I had MS at 42 that's many years ago and I have fought it every step of the way I think i am lucky icky as I can still just about walk with a stick but do use a wheelchair sometimes but my family get mad with me because they think I should stop doing things because I struggle sometimes but they don't realize once you give something up you don't get it back and that's what keeps me going
  • Jane Poskie   Jul 24, 2018 6:00 AM
    well said, I have 2 sister's that do not include me anymore
  • Anita Maher   Aug 1, 2018 1:46 PM
    Reading your story was very inspiring, I love the fight in you. I agree you never give up. Fight until can't fight anymore , don't get me wrong I still have my bad days. I just pick myself up dust my self and start again, that's all anyone in life can do. With an illness or not.😘Anita.