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  • echobird
    I was supposed to meet with this lady and my social worker at the nursing home at 12 but then she came at 10 and Maria knows how I've been saying I've been being gas lighted or stalked. Now this has gone on for 3 years. So about 2 months ago a realtor sent me a text with his card. Then the woman who came was asking me all these questions and telling me that I need 24 hour care. Witch when in a flair up is pretty bad but my health has gotten worse as well as the level of pain I've been having in my spine and constant weakness and my legs have gotten to were I can't stand up to pee. Worst yet is my bed wetting.  But after she left my room she left and didn't want to talk to the social worker with me. Then she just tried asking more questions like I thought my family sent her in to assess me and try and get a conservativersip on my but I don't pose risk to myself and I feel like they have just been trying to take my home from me. Well I looked the woman up and she's the one that bought the bed and breakfast behind my house and has another down this dirt road. And I've come to realize that they've been after my house. So the social worker here at the nursing home is aware of everything and my so is my in home care social worker. I'm almost done paying my house this October or November. But this lady was pushing to get me to allow her to get my nephew away from my home and I think that way they can try and find my paperwork on my house. Not going to happen until I'm ready to get out and that should be any day as long as the meds work. But I still have to have back surgery. I have to go for now getting to tired. But I have a lot more to talk about. Mainly the fact that the one person I felt I could trust to be there and tell me the truth has been behind this I believe. And it hurts so much it ripped a whole through my heart.. And now I feel like I can not trust him. I was completely honest with him and told him about my messing up because he was my one true friend I thought I could tell him anything but lately all he's done is ignore my calls then this. I believe that he's been involved with all of this.
  • maria1
    Hi bird,  It is all beginning to make sense now. We are getting all the information and yes it stinks! Betrayal, we have all been there in different degrees and it always stings, especially when it is people whom you really think love you. It takes a big bite out of our confidence too. And it takes time to sort through all of it, but it is better to know the truth about what is going on. It is like an ah ha moment when the lie surfaces, it cuts and stings and at the same time it is a breath of fresh air.

    As bad as it feels I feel so much better for you, the subtle maddness is gone, they cant say you are crazy anymore and you dont have to doubt yourself anymore. A funny way of putting it is: you can now rest easy, the brain game is over. Now you just have to concentrate on the body better.
  • echobird
    Hi Maria you know what I was correct about it all. The guy I've been buying my home from used the exact words " gas lighted". And fired my nephew not because of this stalking even though I know everyone has been involved. But for neglecting me. From not even taking me to a grocery store. To not taking me to the doctors. And in the end you know how I've been afraid of him well instead he gave me a hug kinda odd I thought. Bought they've been trying to figure a way to get my house from me for a long time now. He and his mom my sister both came over Saturday and they gathered his belongings. And then finally left. But they've been trying to figure a way to get my house from me as i stated from telling me oh your MS is getting worse that you need him here that he's gonna take better care of you. When it wasn't happening before. I already have a new in home care worker that has been doing an excellent job on the first day. I just pray to God that it last like this. And you know the saddest part is that she's a stranger and did a better job on things the first day than I could have gotten my nephew to do the whole time. Well I should had listened to my brother from the beginning and hired a stranger. Anyways I'll have to try and reconnect after I replace my phone and number in the next week. They have this one cloned I think. Because they seem to know everything I've texted anyone or what I talked to you guys about. Only way is if they cloned my phone.
  • echobird
    A Maria not only that but the way I here them talking trash about me trying to make me feel like I'm better off dead than alive. They tried to mess with my head so badly. And they are just messed up. They had me to the point of trying to off myself but I new I was better than them that I said to hell with them and decided to just prove them wrong. Then my sister has been telling me oh no they can't fix your back. That if I went in for surgery I'd be paralyzed. All that they have done is try and make things harder for me. They have made my life to to point of not worth living so that they can take control of me and try and lock me up in a board and care. Or take my home from me.
  • RQManchester
    I don't know if this nephew is your power of attorney or not.  But if he is and you set him up that way in a durable power of attorney; and if you are declared incompetent to conduct your own affairs. then he then can do what he wants to do.  So, if you did that, I would talk to the nursing home social worker and ask her to help you to contact a lawyer to nullify his power of attorney.

    I am not sure if he is the bad guy or the woman and the man are according to your post.  But until you are sure, I would take those steps to nullify the power of attorney.
  • RQManchester
    You are in a vulnerable place, echobird.   I believe all it takes are 2 doctors that sign off on lack of capacity to conduct your own affairs.  That may or may not hold up under legal scrutiny, but you are not really in any condition to fight them in this way.  Take action on the forefront!
  • echobird
    I never gave anyone power of attorney. And the social worker was aware of everything that they've been doing and then that lady contacted the social worker just trying to ask questions and the social worker realized that someone really has been gas lighting me or whatever. But even before that I was honest with her about my past drug use and getting sober and what led to it all. And then this guy I thought was ok but found out different came with his wife and they told the social worker about not even being taken into town for months at a time and how he'd be drinking here and not looking after my health properly. The social worker wanted to call adult protection services on him and then I'd be more afraid that they'd take it further and take his kids and I couldn't have that on my head. But I gave up asking about appointments because he wouldn't take me even to town and his drinking and moods depending on if his girlfriend and him got into it was a lot. So I was stuck for a month in this nursing home and hated it. But I'd rather be there longer than to have his kids hate me too.
     so I finally found 2 people to replace him so I don't fall through the cracks so to speak. And I made sure that I was confident that I'd be able to have a extra hand just in case. But now I'm the ass hole and a *****. And he really hates ne for this.
  • maria1
    Are his kids old enough to have common sense? Eventually they will see him for who he is. They will hate you if you continue to allow his destructive behavior. See if there is an alcohol support group in your area or call the crisis hotline listed in the front of your local phone book or call the National MS Society to see if they can find some agency to help you, before there is irreparable damage done.
  • echobird
    1st grade or kindergarten. As to my nephew's kid's. I don't think they'll understand and I would be the SOB 
  • maria1
    And yet, you show them much kindness and consideration, you care to be in a relationship with them, and are extending yourself to be very generous with them. That is something very nice about you. Thank you for sharing all you are going through, we are all learning from it.
  • echobird
    Well thank you too. I've tried through out my life to always put other's first and foremost I believe is why I'm in this mess. I should have thought of myself long ago. I just realized that I had left someone else in a bad spot as well. He's a patient at the nursing home I was in. Mind you I thought he was an a** hole ..the way he acted but he didn't deserve to be yelled at ether by a nurse. The way this nurse yelled at him.
  • maria1
    They are very little people so yes, they would not understand. Too bad he spends his time drinking, he is missing their growing up.
  • echobird
    Not just there life but mine. The fact is that I shouldn't had been so bad off. I'm going to talk to the social worker.