I've currently been diagnosed with MS 3 months ago & I'm a stay at home mom to 4 children under the age of 6. I'm the one who cooks, cleans, bathes & feeds children, does all the laundry & still manage to find time to make 6 humans happy on a daily. I'm in so much pain , I feel like my muscles are just ran over & i hurt to move, sit, or lay. I'm so moody and have been breaking down the past week. What can I do to be less stress? What can help this pain? any home remedies?
With 4 kids and being a stay at home mom, I'm sure your stress level is through the roof. First, ask for help! This would still be my advise if you didn't have MS. Second, let it go! If the house isn't clean, so what! If your kids want to wear pajamas all day, let them! This was very hard for me at first and probably will be for you too. If it won't matter tomorrow, it doesn't matter today.
I don't take any meds other than ibuprofen. I do use a wonder cream called "Australian dream". You can get it from Wal-Mart or Walgreens. It is cheaper at Wal-Mart. It comes in two kinds. Back pain or arthritis. I use the back pain. I use it on my legs, arms,back, really anything that hurts. I don't know how it works, but it just seems to relax whatever is aching.
My first six months after being diagnosed were awful. I was so afraid it was my new normal. Once I changed my attitude and lowered my stress, things got way better. I live a very active, full life. It just takes some time to learn what works for you.
Being a stay at home mom is stressful in itself. I have 2 4 years old and 1 and I'm also a stay at home mom.
This is what works for me.... I keep organized and have structure to our day especially now in the summer when we are all home all day. This helps especially for cognitive issues when you can easily get overwhelmed which leads to stress. This way each day you know what to expect and you don't end up doing too much and feeling extra tired. It also helps for memory issues and brain fog to keep on a schedule and have a routine daily. Sometimes these things are more important than the obvious things like being out in the heat etc.
I also try to plan any outside activities for morning when it's not as hot and in the afternoon we might do some indoor things. I also work in plenty of downtime even if it's just the kids being on the iPad or reading books or watching a bit of tv so I can sit down next to them instead of running around. It also helps to know your limits and say no to play dates that might be too much for you leading you to feel tired and in pain.
I would advise you speaking with your doctor as far as some remedies for pain.
Hope this helps. You're doing a great job mama of 4!
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Hi Inked_mommy, I'm glad you found this site as you will find a great deal of support from this page. A new diagnosis of MS can be overwhelming by itself without the extra stressors present in your life. I agree with the others that you need to ask for help when you need it, this can feel so foreign as we are used to taking on everything for our families! Communicate and let your family know how you feel and where you are struggling. In regards to the pain, I would suggest speaking with your doctor, if you are on some kind of treatment and it is not working, then trying another option might be the way to go. This is the link to our website that discusses Pain with MS: http://www.nationalmssociety.org/Symptoms-Diagnosis/MS-Symptoms/Pain
You may also want to visit our website link on being Newly Diagnosed, I would recommend reading our Knowledge is Power program (KIP) online or requesting it be mailed out to you. This is the link to our information: http://www.nationalmssociety.org/Symptoms-Diagnosis/Newly-Diagnosed
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Hang in there!
MS Navigator Ashley
My grandma was diagnosed with Multiple sclerosis not me. So I can't pretend to know what type of pain you're in. However, when her muscles start to cramp she uses Biofreeze. She buys it at Wal-Mart usually. It comes in about a four inch white bottle, you can get in a roll on or gel form