Not sure how to start so I'll just spit it out. Some of you have read my story already. A recap he has had ppms for about 5 years now maybe a little more, he has 25% of his heart working, 30% of his kidneys, has trouble swollowing, dementia is starting and now he has Obsessive Compulsion Disorder. He watches Netflix and applies for jobs all day he's 74 years old
with the OCD he has to take 5-6 glasses into the study with him of liquid, pop tarts every morning for breakfast, hot pickets for lunch and ice tea to drink. He gets upset if he doesn't have them. I have tried to stop the number of glasses but to no use. He still does it. He was using paper towels to wipe his eyes, then he tears them up in small pieces. No idea why he does this. My dogs were getting them and eating them. So I switched him to Kleenex thinking that would be better. No he tears them up too sticking them in his nose then puts them on paper plates so he can reuse them. I took those away. No we are going through a roll of toilet paper every other day. Just about anything I give him becomes a compulsion for him.
my sister moved in with us because she doesn't make much social security and she wanted to be of help to me,she likes to cook On top of that we both are living with my older brother who doesn't like dogs that bark did I mention we have 5 dogs? 4 standard poodles and one rescue mut My sister gets upset when my brother yells to shut the dogs up, she now stays in her room to "keep hers quiet"
I said we live here he's got to get use to her dogs and they him but she stays in her room
So lots of dynamics going on here to say things aren't easy here at the house is an understatement. Ever since she was sick she's been grouch as heck. I try to stay positive, otherwise I'd go crazy. My focus is my husband always has been always will be.
She got mad at me last Saturday for asking if she had the energy to run an errand. She said no but she'd go with me if I drove. I said that was ok I'd go figuring she needed to rest before my family came over for a birthday party. She got mad started crying and went into her room crying saying she can't do everything
today, tuesday was the first day she came out of her room After not talking to me for two hours she said we have to talk. I asked about what for I truly didn't know. She started by saying things have to change. I cater to my husband too much, I sit and play games on my computer and I don't do my thing. She does everything. So that was what the argument was about
John's neurologist has upped one of his medications to see if that will help his OCD but it will take a while yet to see if it will help.
am I wrong to let John do what he needs to do to be ok Her complaint was it causes more dishes for her we do have a dishwasher. She likes to do dishes right after dinner I don't. So she usually does them but if she doesn't I have started doing them after she goes to bed. I'm a night person since John doesn't sleep well. I pay for a house keeper every other week, do our laundry and help with the rest of the house
anyway she says I need to stop catering to John , muy husband Make him eat other stuff don't buy the junk he eats Drs have said at his age and with all his problems they'd want to eat pop tarts and hot pockets too so they are no help
medical professionals say that I shouldn't upset him anymore than I have to so I let him do what he needs to do.
Am I wrong? Am I enabling him and hindering him more than helping?
my sister doesn't understand MS and thinks he can change I wish he could but he can't
I play games on my phone and read books on it too. That's how I cope with life the way it is right now she doesn't understand. I've never been one to go out for the heck of it. She thinks I should get out more without him. I can't. We always did things together.
someone please tell me I'm doing things right or wrong. I'll listen to you all as you know way more about all this than me.
Im just tired of being wrong all the time. I'm trying my best but it doesn't appear good enough
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