About Me

  • Gender Female
  • Age 51
  • Relationship Married

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I met my husband in 2015, shortly after my breast cancer went into remission. He was diagnosed with MS in 1994, so he’d been dealing with it for quite awhile. In a previous marriage, he was treated poorly, so his body rebelled and he was already confined to a wheelchair for the most part but strong, not progressing and had the determination to stay working and mobile. Since then, starting in 2016, he lost his job (suit pending), worked on contract for a year, lost that job, lost his mother (who he was extremely close to) and has lost his zest for life. He is no longer strong and fighting. The man I fell in love with is fading and I don’t know what to do. I try to stay positive and encourage him, but have been forced to resort to tough love at times. This is not who I am. I’m still dealing with fears of cancer recurrence myself and feel like a hypocrite telling him to stay positive when I can’t myself (about my own health). I’m also the only one working and at a full time 50-60 hour a week job. We need the money, but I have no energy to be a full time caregiver when I get home either. He refuses to go to bed at a decent time and I have to help him most nights, so I’m also lacking sleep. His doctor says he has not progressed in years so there is no reason why he should be getting weaker and weaker except laziness, depression or lack of motivation. All I hear is “woe is me” and “everyone is out to get me because I have MS”. How can I get my wonderful, happy go-lucky husband back? He used to act like he had no disability in front of people and they’d forget about it. Now, he does the opposite. He needs friends or something to motivate him, besides me!

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