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maria1
maria1 replied to discussion RE:mental
20 days ago
There are so many variables in play it is a challenge to focus on one culprit: 1. is he in pain2. how much physical ability ahs he lost3. how much mental ability has he lost4. is he still employed5. can he perform sexually6. can he communicate7. is he active8. is his daily routine significantly different than before ms9. has he lost his independence10. can he provide for his family11. are you asking when he needs assistance or are you doing without asking12. have you assumed his tasks13.are you motheriing him14. are you treating him as an equal15. are you communicating as much as 'before'16. are you having quiet time together17. is he in oain18. is he in painAdapting to unwanted changes is difficult and the thought that the changes will only increase is tough to swallow. Some persons think they have done something wrong and ms is payback, though this thinking is unrealistic.Also, good and bad are unhelpful thinking just like right and wrong, but we have been raised that way. Like man is the provider. What do you want to happen? is a question you may want to ask yourself and your partner, the answers may surprise you as well as define your path.  
starla-karas
starla-karas replied to discussion RE:mental
20 days ago
My husband and I going through something similar but he was diagnosed 2003. How can we be sure it's the disease?
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Jennifer-Porrata created discussion mental
29 days ago
My husband was diagnosed in 2013. In the past year it seems like his mental issues have become a problem. He stopped antidepressants over a year ago. Now he seems depressed all the time. He almost seems bipolar at times. Not sure how to handle this. Close to getting a divorce. He loves me one day and the next day he does not want to be with me. He uses his MS as a excuse sometimes. 
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maria1
maria1 replied to discussion RE:Husband newly diagnosed with MS
3 months ago
You are very welcome. i am not saying this is going to be easy, pshaw. Agood rule is to take responsibility for your life and let him take responsibility for his life. And do your best to have fum, to make happy memories.
maria1
maria1 replied to discussion RE:Husband newly diagnosed with MS
3 months ago
I had to fight with my partner to stop doing for me. "Mother, please, I'd rather do it myself.' Autonomy is important. If he needs assistance he will ask. For you, find the fastest easiest way to get the job done so you will have time to watch your children grow. Do your best not to be an enabler, he needs his independence more, to bolster his own self image. Observe so you will not be surprised, but do not rush to interfer. Allow him to learn who he has become, and observe who you have become. Write your thoughts and reflections to get all the stuff out of your head. Keep a dialogue going even with the difficult stuff, hold hands and relax, one moment at a time, and rest before you get tired so you dont become drained. best wishes, maria